Most people are able to plainly tell me what it is that they do not want, prefer not to see, hear or feel. I often take them through an exercise, leveraging the negatives to arrive at the positives by creating clear contrasts between what is undesirable and what would be more satisfying. Follow these ideas and do it for yourself.
You cannot define what you want unless you clarify vague ideas and specify the outcomes you actually desire clearly. Furthermore, unless you also explore the reasons why you wish to have these things, the path ahead may be full of pitfalls.
Thus, if you are able to spell out what you have and why you no longer want that, but are unable to clearly articulate that which would be more fulfilling, then this exercise could be of value to you. Delving into what you define as troublesome can allow you to come to grips with what you would actually like to achieve.